Karmic contracts have received a lot of attention in metaphysical circles. Often, people come together who have made agreements ahead of time, before birth, to meet in this lifetime in order to play roles for each other. The contracts are not based on time periods or dates. Rather, their manifestation is based more on levels of spiritual growth and awakening. It is possible to miss the completion of some karmic contracts in a lifetime if previous contracts are not met. For instance, it may be necessary for a person to overcome the obstacle of self hatred before the mate he or she is going to be with for a long time appears. (In fact, it would be best not to attract a mate that would reflect self hatred and it is better if those relationships are short.)

Mates you have already had all taught you something about yourself. All have reflected something to you that you have either changed or overcome. Your earlier relationships are most likely different than the ones you have most recently had. You will see that you have grown, become more self aware, and have attracted something better each time around. This is a sign that you are awakening. Now that you are becoming aware of yourself as eternal self, seeing things from the point of view of an eternal being rather than a mere mortal, you are ready for a whole new level in relationships. Hopefully your present partner can enter this level with you, if you are with someone you really enjoy being with.

Karmic contracts with others does not mean you are stuck in them. You won’t be able to bypass them, but you can learn about yourself more quickly, become self aware, awakened by the experience, and move on. There is always the possibility for resolution of karmic contracts. The idea of “canceling” contracts is only a postponement of a pending “earth lesson,” so you might as well learn from the karmic contract rather than run from it. You won’t escape your education in earth life. However, you do not have to stay in abusive relationships, or relationships that clearly do not reflect how you see yourself now. It is not unusual for people on the spiritual path to suddenly realize that they need to exit immediately from a relationship because it simply does not match anymore. Simply realizing that the relationship is not healthy, that you attracted it to yourself and created it, allowed it, and took responsibility for what you created, this might be all that you were needing to learn from it, besides the knowledge that you must take care of yourself and not allow anyone to harm you.

There does not have to be a huge drama for the exit to happen, and friendship is even possible for most relationships, but separation of realities might be inevitable. When two people are together, their realities are affected and influenced by each other’s projections about reality. If your partner’s perspective is not in conjunction with your own, your realities no longer match. There is a rift. Unless each can align again with each other’s point of view, a separation must occur so that room is provided for a different reflection of consciousness, which is pushing its way into manifestation. If someone does not reflect your consciousness, you will either be dragged back into your old way of seeing things or chaos will occur if one doesn’t let go gracefully. It is possible that the mate might shift with you, but you cannot expect it. You can give the invitation, but if the other person does not see things the same way you do, your realities cannot peacefully intertwine. This does not necessarily mean that your point of view is superior to anyone else’s, but it simply does not match. The other person may be shifting for the better, too, but the consciousness that you both hold still might not match.

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