Of course there are practicalities you must take into consideration when attempting to create a new relationship. For one thing, you will never find your mate by staying home and watching TV every night! Well, perhaps in some cases. However, it makes the job tougher for the powers that be to get you and your new mate together. It is easier for you to meet a new mate if you simply increase the possibilities by meeting more people. You must socialize and become available to the public. You must not hide out.

Ask yourself what kind of groups you would like to associate with in public. You might want to see if there are some metaphysical groups that sponsor monthly or weekly meetings for solstices or moon ceremonies. You might also like to see if there is a metaphysical church in your area. Maybe you would like to take some metaphysical classes or workshops. If you can afford them, do so. Perhaps there are even spiritual singles groups in your area, especially if you are near a large city. Find your people! Surround yourself with like minded acquaintances. Even if you don’t find your mate in these groups you will still end up with some new friends that will be a wonderful addition to your life. It will also be a statement to the universe that you are making yourself available and that you have set your intention.

Take on new activities that you have never thought of before. Perhaps you would like to take up a new sport, or a new hobby. Perhaps you would like to take a class at the local college and acquire a new skill. Perhaps you would like to start taking walks in a park you have never frequented before, or join a hiking club. Perhaps you could join a committee, or volunteer for a community service. Where would your mate be likely to be found? What kind of person is it that you are looking for? Once you know this, then go to those types of activities and immerse yourself in them. Would your ideal mate like the arts? How about physical activities? Spiritual circles? Specific locations? Put yourself there so that you can meet this kind of person.

Putting yourself in the right place to meet your special someone is healthy for you, and invites more possibilities for the reflection of your new perspective of self to appear. It stretches your mind and heart, and gives you freshness and newness. Trying new things, getting out into public, exploring new locations, all of these make you attractive because you are enjoying yourself and having a new experience. Loneliness is not necessary because you are never really alone. You are immersed in oneness with all things, all beings, so you are never alone unless you choose to be.

Doing your spiritual homework and re-adjusting your consciousness is a very important practicality, for nothing will change unless you do on the inside. For some people, a complete overhaul of their reality outlook might be in order! This could take some time. If you believe that you need to really change your attitudes and programming before you try your next relationship, take the time you need to do this. Otherwise you will waste time going through many unhealthy relationships unnecessarily. Make yourself as whole as possible, as awake as possible, and then invite the reflection in reality that is to be your mate. It will be a better manifestation if you do your spiritual homework and awaken first before drawing your next relationship to you. The Exercises in this course will give you some ideas on where to begin this process.

Another practicality, remember to watch for your opportunities! It is not unusual for a person to reject the moment when a new relationship presents itself, even though he or she has been yearning for it. It is because he or she has gotten so used to being alone that being with another is incomprehensible. You must be able to comprehend being with another person in your life and sharing a life together. If you have self-deserving issues, you must let these go. Otherwise, you will sabotage your manifestation, sending mixed messages to the bio-machinery that physical reality (projection of consciousness) is. Self doubt, negative programming, or a pessimistic outlook is a sure monkey-wrench in the works. Let yourself be open to receive the opportunities as they present themselves. Reprogram the mind to fall back into stillness when those thoughts come up. Don’t even use affirmations. Go straight to still mind. This is where the true you resides.

When you begin your new relationship, watch for the patterns that happened in your previous relationships. See if there are any correlations. This is another chance to break the chain of programming in your human condition. Instead of fleeing or feeling a sense of doom because of the faults in your personality are showing up in the relationship, face them and work with them. You might even let your partner know. Open lines of communication to work out your patterns together consciously. This could be an exquisite experience of maturation and growth for both of you, especially if conscious intent and awareness is brought to the patterns that will inevitably come up in relationships. Don’t try to avoid your growth together. Embrace it!

When your self sabotage thoughts come up, move back into a still mind. Do not live with the expectation of the relationship ending. Just because the relationships before this one ended, that doesn’t mean this one has to end. One of the worst undo charms for a relationship is the thought, “It’s going to end badly, when’s the other shoe going to drop and this person won’t love me anymore?” This fear will come true, for it is being projected into the bio-machine called physical reality. On the other hand, expecting this relationship to last, for this one to be “the one,” and being let down if it doesn’t turn out that way, this is unhealthy too. A better way to approach these fears is to stay in the present moment and enjoy every experience as it comes. Don’t worry about the future. You will survive it, whatever it holds, and so will your mate. If you continue together, this is fine. If you don’t, this is fine too. It simply means it is time for a new relationship if there is an end to this one. If you outgrow a relationship, it is not a sign of failure, rather, it is a sign of growth and maturation.

In short, here is a list of things to do in order to attract your mate:

• Develop the habit of having a still mind, and awaken.
• Do your spiritual homework and examine your past for patterns.
• Develop ideas on how to do things differently than you did before.
• Undo negative programming by returning to still mind, always.
• Develop the qualities in yourself that you would like your mate to have.
• Put yourself in likely places where you would meet a person who fits the description of the mate you want to attract.
• Be open to receive and watch for your opportunities.
• Embrace your growth with another person and continue to mature by breaking human condition patterning that you have around relationships.

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