Many people believe that marriage to one mate for the rest of one’s lifetime is the ultimate goal. This is a fallacy and has created many miserable partnerships because of the traditional idea of marriage. Realize that the original idea of marriage is an antiquity, and human beings are evolving past this idea. It was created as a contract where a man owns a woman, and a woman owns a man, and their co-dependent needs are fulfilled. A man needed a woman to feed him, clothe him, keep the house, and raise the children. A woman needed a man to shelter her, provide for her, and take care of her financially since she was not allowed to work in well-paying careers, own a successful business or own land by herself. This contract was for life so that neither had to worry about his or her welfare. Even if unhappiness was the result, at least their human needs would be taken care of. Divorce was non-existent, and death was the only way out. This does not mean that love was not involved in marriage, for the idea was to pick someone who was a good match, someone who one loved. However, there was no provision for the possibility that each would fall out of love.

There are rare cases where two people are meant to meet each other and stay married for life. When someone marries his or her high school sweetheart and stays happily married until death, this is a special karmic contract. This is a rare case! This is not the norm. Everyone has been trying to fit themselves into this rare mold and feeling like a failure because they have not been able to fulfill this idea. Human beings are actually geared more toward serial monogamy. What that means is one relationships at a time in a progression, one after another. Polyamory means more than one relationship at a time, and this is more appropriate for those who are young and in the exploratory phase of learning about relationships. As one grows older, this gets less attractive and security is more desirable, unless the polyamory includes all the partners together and with each other. However, serial monogamy is the most common of all the karmic contracts for relationships.

Do not feel like a failure if you have had several or many relationships and have still not found that one mate. You may be destined for serial monogamy until death, and some relationships will last longer than others. It is likely that you will stay with partners longer and longer as you age, and may stay with your last partner until death. However, you might want to let go of the idea of having the same partner for 50 years. People who have the lifelong partner until death are not more special than you, nor are they more advanced. It is just not necessarily the plan for your life this time around. Everyone gets to have a lifetime where they happily experience the same partner for life. It is part of the educational structure (karma) on Earth, but this may not be that lifetime. If it is not, then be satisfied with serial monogamy.

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