Many people believe in the concept of a soul mate. It is actually quite a romantic idea. Soul mates have been likened to “twin souls,” one soul that has split into two souls. These two souls are trying to re-unite and join together again, somewhere in the universe, in order to become one soul again. This is how it feels when one is in love, when the perfect mate has been found, when harmony in relationship is experienced. It feels as if Oneness has been reached, nirvana.

However, there is a flaw in this theory. The idea of any soul not being your own self, as if there is one that is more like you, or perfectly matched, over other souls, this is a belief in separation. Ideally, there is no separation. God is in everything, everyone, everywhere. If this is true, then it is all One Self having many lifetimes. There is only One Soul. If awareness, consciousness, is the only thing that remains constant, then all that appears and disappears must be illusion. If there is a beginning and an end, it is illusion. If it appears and disappears in the arena of consciousness, it is a dream in the mind of God. If there is a “birth” of a soul, a division of any sort from some “source,” if a soul is an “individual” of some sort, then it is an illusory identity. If it must become one again with another, it is an illusion. There is no hierarchy in the One Self. There is no something that is self versus not-self.

Therefore, there is no such thing as a “soul mate” in the typical way the word is used. Actually, everyone is your soul mate. There is only One Self. So anyone could be your soul mate, if you are able to perceive all as your own self. When you have reached this state, this is when the perfect mate will show up. It will be because you are living in that state of perfection. This does not mean perfection of the human condition. It is in realizing that you are a perfect being, the eternal self, dreaming and lucid in your human life, even if the human identity is not perfect. The perfect “soul mate” will appear because you will attract someone who is also living in that state. You will both be able to experience Oneness. It is not because you are “twins” who have reunited. It is because you are both in realization of yourselves as One Self.

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