Being alone may be just the right thing for you right now. If you are alone, between relationships, or have never had one, you have been given the chance to work on your awakening without interference from another. Relationships can definitely qualify as distracting forces from the spiritual path. Sometimes alone time is quite necessary. Too much alone time can have a detrimental effect, but the right amount produces wisdom and clarity.

Right after a relationship ends, it is best to be alone for a while so that you don’t carry into the next relationship all the same issues. It is useful to use the time to regroup, take inventory of yourself, meditate on what was realized because of the relationship, and begin the process of building a different reality manifestation. It is wise to take time

Do not think that you have failed because you have had several “failed” relationships. It is natural for people to move through several relationships before a long term one appears. These are not actually failed relationships. They were necessary experiences so that you have a better understanding of yourself and how you act in relationships. These were chances for you to grow and awaken to who you really are. You learned a lot by having more than one partner.

If your choice is to be with someone who is not healthy for you or be alone, it is better to be alone. Choosing to be alone is a difficult decision. Many remain in stagnant relationships because they are afraid to be alone. For some, the deterrent is that it is more work to be alone. The partners may have found themselves stuck in a co-dependent situation and must remain in the relationship in order to make ends meet or take care of kids. It is an individual case for each person whether or not to be alone or not, given responsibilities to children and such, but if arrangements can be made that are still acceptable to the children, aloneness is possible, even if only for short periods of time. Amicable and lucid dissolutions of relationships can be experienced even if children are involved. This takes wisdom and compassion between two partners when each have become stagnant in a relationship and want to separate. It is better than remaining miserable together.

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