Radical
Forgiveness
In the words of Arnoldt Patent: “Forgiveness is not letting bygones by bygones. It is coming to the realization that, seen from the spiritual perspective, nothing wrong ever happened. Therefore there is nothing to forgive.” (http://www.iloveulove.com) Radical forgiveness is in alignment with the path of remembering the connectedness of all life. It shifts our beliefs about the world from one of separation to one of unity. For many spiritual people, this is the path of life. Colin Tipping states, “The principal reason for our journey is to heal the dream of separation and to remember who we are. Our Higher Selves attract others into our lives so we can play out the drama of separation for each other.” (http://www.iloveulove.com)
Radical forgiveness moves us beyond the playing out of our three basic fears. We can awaken to the realization that all of the pain we’ve experienced has been a way for us to overcome our fears. “We can then live our life knowing that, without exception, everything that happens to us is divinely guided, entirely purposeful, and for our spiritual growth,” states Tipping. Instead of asking ourselves, “what do I need to change or fix within myself” we can ask “how can I better see the perfection in my life?” Radical forgiveness asks us to look at the present moment in order to heal past wounds. We can shift the way we look at the present reality, and by doing this, all the seemingly existing problems in our lives can dissolve into perfection.
To understand where to focus our attention with radical forgiveness, we can look at two indicators of areas in our lives that haven’t been resolved through forgiveness. One way to know if they are still unresolved is to notice how we feel when we think of the situation or person. If a reaction occurs in our bodies other than love, compassion, or peace when we think of the person or situation, we have yet to resolve it. Another good indicator of something being unresolved is if we become very upset when we see something similar occurring to other people in the world. The more we feel upset, the more we are projecting our own unresolved pain onto them.
Radical forgiveness holds that feelings of anger, victimization, and unworthiness are all calling us to see the connectedness of life instead of holding the belief of separation. The universe often brings a lesson around again for us in order to have the opportunity to resolve it. Colin Tipping says, “That’s what we call a recurring pattern and it always indicates a core issue that still needs to be healed.” When we are faced with a similar situation, we are given the chance to unblock any stuck energy around an old issue. “Radical Forgiveness enables us to release anger, blame and resentment. It shows us how to let go of control and surrender to life in the moment so we can heal—even from cancer. Through Radical Forgiveness, our relationships improve, problems dissolve immediately, we become more loving of other people as well as of ourselves, and we raise our vibration. That’s when miracles happen.” (Tipping, http://www.iloveulove.com)