Knowing Your Place, Handling Traumatized Clients & Staying Objective
(This is an excerpt from a University Of Metaphysical Sciences course at www.umsonline.org, please feel free to visit the school website)
Staying objective can be a challenge, especially if you pick up particularly disturbing information. The questions a person asks are normally highly charged, and might be asked around to deep healing that is needed. People ask questions because they have issues to resolve. Some people may come with a very traumatic past, and you may be inundated with scenes from this person's past if one is asking you to help with healing of certain issues connected with those events.
For instance, it is not unusual to witness violent events from someone's childhood that may be directly related to an issue that is now trying to be resolved. Sometimes it is appropriate to reveal the events and sometimes it is not. It is usually best if someone remembers these events on their own, and are not told about these events in detail. You can ask questions to determine the level of this person's conscious knowledge of their past, and encourage them to remember it. Usually traumatic events from childhood are relegated to deep memory pockets and are not conscious unless spiritual probing and age regression have taken place.
Most importantly, however, more important than determining whether a person has conscious knowledge of what has happened, is to deliver the message that this person most needs to heal in connection with these past events. For instance instead of reciting the events you are witnessing in your intuition, ask yourself what does this person most need to hear in connection with these events. When you receive this answer, deliver it. For instance, the message a person might most need to hear is, “What happened to you in your childhood was not your fault.” At this point a person might break down and begin to cry and tell you about what happened, especially if it is conscious. They may even want to know more about what happened if the memories are vague.
When handling clients with traumatic or troubling memories, it is important to know when a psychotherapist is necessary versus an intuitive. In some cases, the intuitive can help where the psychologist cannot, especially if the questions pertain to past life issues manifested in this life and it is a spiritual dilemma rather than a psychological dilemma. It is important to know your skill level with counseling. You must remain in the area of counseling from a spiritual viewpoint, rather than a psychological viewpoint. Only a trained psychologist can work with severely abused or traumatized people when dealing with serious mental illness.
This is very delicate, volatile and difficult material to work with in a person who has been traumatized, and if you have not had the experience yourself of healing from traumatic events, you are not necessarily equipped to help this person unless you have had formal training in psychology. Telling this person of other traumatic events that you see happened to him or her may not help this person at all, and in fact may compound the situation. Again, these memories must come to this person from within, and be remembered on one’s own. You can encourage this by suggesting to the person that he or she do past life regression, or age regression to the childhood, and you may tell him or her that it is true that he or she was harmed at a young age or in past lives. However, it is not always appropriate to go into the details, especially if they were very horrific.
If you do feel that you're equipped to help this person, have personal experience with healing from similar events that this person has gone through, and would like to continue, help this person find their own answers by walking this person through an age regression, or through past life regression if this is the issue, and allow him or her to find out what happened. It is best when the person's own unconscious reveals what is there when it concerns these deeply traumatizing events. The unconscious is built on purpose to only release this information when the person is ready to handle it at the conscious level. This is why so many people who have been abused do not know about these events until much later in life. There is a wiser self that knows that the conscious mind was not ready, and did not have the tools, to handle this information. This is a safety valve that is built into the human psyche.
Sometimes a person asks a question that he or she hopes is a yes. If the answer is no, it is important to be able to deliver this answer in as gentle away as possible so that the person might be able to receive this. You may find yourself having to break hard news to people while it is difficult to find the good points of the answer. Your job however is to give these people inspiration, and hope. Even if the answer is no to a hoped-for yes, try to find the benefits a person will receive even if the answer is no. It is important to deliver bad news gently and with grace. Allow your heart to open wider as you deliver bad news. Be compassionate.
One of the benefits of being the translator between the unconscious to the conscious is that you are allowed to edit, whereas when channeling it is best to refrain from editing the content. If you feel that certain information is harmful or unethical, you are welcome to leave this information out. You must make these decisions yourself, rather than the guide making these decisions as in channeling. A higher power does seem to come and alert you, however, when you are about to deliver harmful or unethical information. You will know when this information is to be withheld.